Sunday, 11 December 2016

Candle Lighting Day

Worldwide Candle Lighting Day was a gift to the bereavement community from The Compassionate Friends. The Compassionate Friend’s Worldwide Candle Lighting Day started in the United States in 1997 as a small internet observance in honour of children who lived tragically short lives for any number of reasons, from sickness, to accidents, to war, but has since spread throughout the world.

Nowadays, hundreds of formal candle lighting events are held in many different countries and thousands of informal candle lightings are conducted in homes as families gather in quiet remembrance of children who have died, but will never be forgotten. many organizations join in to observe this holiday, some of which are local bereavement groups, churches, funeral homes, hospitals, hospices, children’s gardens, schools, cemeteries, and community centres, and remembrance services have ranged in size from just a few people to nearly a thousand over the years since the creation of this special day. All of this just goes to show how necessary it was to set this day aside for this purpose.

How to Celebrate World Candle Lighting Day

As mentioned before, this day is celebrated with a quiet elegance: at 7 p.m. local time, people light candles for one hour to remember their loved ones. It is a moving occasion that bypasses geographical and cultural divides. As everyone lights their candles at seven pm local time, far-flung parts of the world get illuminated in turn, so that eventually the light has moved all around the globe. If you have experienced the loss of a child in your lifetime, this is a good moment to honour his or her memory by taking part in the candle lighting. You could also invite some close family members to spend this time with you and light their own candles for the late sons, daughters, brothers, sisters, and grandchildren.

This doesn’t only have to be a sad occasion, however. Children’s lives are mostly filled with fun and laughter, so reminiscing about all of the things the child you are honouring managed to enjoy before he or she passed may should serve to lighten the atmosphere up a little bit. Of course, nothing will ever make up for the loss of a child, but there is some solace to be taken in the fact that the child’s life was a good one, however short. No matter whether you’ll be lighting a candle at home or joining a gathering Worldwide Candle Lighting Day it is a way to show love and community.

Saturday, 10 December 2016


* Heimweh [ˈhaɪ̯mˌveː] (German) = longing to travel to a place where you feel at home and where you can be completely yourself.
* Heimee (Dutch) = longing to travel to a place where you feel at home and where you can be completely yourself.

My daughter has accepted an offer to a house of her own. She is 22 now, and it's time to fly away from home. I left home when I was 21 years old. Now it's time for her to spread her wings. I know she will not be homesick (heimwee).
Maybe Wanita and I will have heimwee for her.

In the series, extraordinary commercials, this one is from Lufthansa, and it's theme is Heimweh. The film features the Inoue brothers Kiyoshi and Satoru on their personal journey, travelling to the place they call home. For more, go to

The Inoue brothers, who grew up in Denmark, have always felt more connected to the country of their parents. It is their fascination with the relationship between humans and nature that leads them back to Japan and ultimately to a clearer sense of their identity. We follow them to Yakushima and Kagoshima. Here, they visit Sakurijama, the mystical volcano of their father’s bedtime stories. They subsequently launch an artisan ceramics line using volcanic ashes. Find out how exploring their family’s origins helps them reconnect with their heritage and how they revive the memories of their late father.

Friday, 9 December 2016

One night in Bankok

Bangkok, Oriental setting
And the city don't know that the city is getting
The crème de la crème of the chess world in a
Show with everything but Yul Brynner

Time flies doesn't seem a minute
Since the Tirolean spa had the chess boys in it
All change don't you know that when you
Play at this level there's no ordinary venue

It's Iceland or the Philippines or Hastings or
or this place!

One night in Bangkok and the world's your oyster
The bars are temples but the pearls ain't free
You'll find a god in every golden cloister
And if you're lucky then the god's a she
I can feel an angel sliding up to me

One town's very like another
When your head's down over your pieces, brother

It's a drag, it's a bore, it's really such a pity
To be looking at the board, not looking at the city

Whaddya mean? Ya seen one crowded, polluted, stinking town

Tea, girls, warm, sweet
Some are set up in the Somerset Maugham suite

Get Thai'd! You're talking to a tourist
Whose every move's among the purest
I get my kicks above the waistline, sunshine

One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble
Not much between despair and ecstasy
One night in Bangkok and the tough guys tumble
Can't be too careful with your company
I can feel the devil walking next to me

Siam's gonna be the witness
To the ultimate test of cerebral fitness
This grips me more than would a
Muddy old river or reclining Buddha

And thank God I'm only watching the game controlling it

I don't see you guys rating
The kind of mate I'm contemplating
I'd let you watch, I would invite you
But the queens we use would not excite you

So you better go back to your bars, your temples, your massage

One night in Bangkok and the world's your oyster
The bars are temples but the pearls ain't free
You'll find a god in every golden cloister
A little flesh, a little history
I can feel an angel sliding up to me

One night in Bangkok makes a hard man humble
Not much between despair and ecstasy
One night in Bangkok and the tough guys tumble
Can't be too careful with your company
I can feel the devil walking next to me

Thursday, 8 December 2016


This picture looks a bit like the Escher drawings. Yes, the hair is braided over her face, covering it completely and now her hands are tied as well. Not tight, but tied in a firm knot.

Is this a Photoshop picture again? Could very well be. But with a bit of imagination and a lot of long hair, it could be done: braided and covering her face totally.

Wednesday, 7 December 2016

Face down, Ass up

My kind of humour. I admire the creative minds that come up with such a wonderful pictogram.
Sensible advice as well: Face down, ass up.

Tuesday, 6 December 2016

Emotional Abuse

Know your "red flags" when you hear them. It's NOT ok, and it should be a warning sign that all red lights in your head go "Beep, beep, beep, this is not a drill, I repeat we have a red flag situation here this is not a drill" like an alarm in a submarine.

These are some of them.

Monday, 5 December 2016


Sinterklaas is surrounded by a large number of traditions that are often hundreds of years old, like many other folk and traditional holidays. Sinterklaas food like "pepernoten" and "speculaaspoppen" , we put our shoes at the chimney and we must be careful that we do not disappear into the bag of Black Piet. But where do these traditions come from?

The bag of Sinterklaas 

Like many on the Christian faith-based celebrations Sinterklaas has a number of acquired traditions by the Germans. For example the use of the bag comes from. Many Germanic tribes actually had a ritual for the coming of age of older boys. They were overnight abducted by adult male tribesmen and put in a bag to test their bravery. Probably this is where the story of the sack of Saint  comes from, that naughty children were taken to Spain in the bag.

Putting shoe by chimney

This was done in the 15th century on Christmas Eve and was meant for the poor. Children put their shoe on December 5th at the church, after which the shoes were filled by the rich. The contents of the shoes a day later, on December 6 was the anniversary of Saint Nicholas, distributed among the poor. In the 16th century people began putting taking children home their shoes where they were filled by their parents with toys and sweets.

St. Nicolas Evening by Jan Steen approximately 1665


The Sinterklaas celebration as we know it will only be further celebrated in Belgium. Although it has remained children's feast there, without a "pack evening" with surprises and poems. Children put there only once their shoe and will never find a chocolate letter in it - crazy, because Belgians love their chocolate, but maybe that explains enough. Neither the "pepernoot" (gingerbread nut) is known in Belgium.
Pakjesavond is from the fifties and sixties of the last century. Adult give each other a "surprise" (French, pronounce: surpriese). Something that is made from old stuff that is not what it looks like. It is accompanied by a poem. In that poem often the recipient of the gift is confronted with all the naughty or stupid things he or she has done this year.
For the smaller kids Sinterklaas brings a bag full of toys and other stuff they have put on their wishing list. 

Sinterklaas always knows what the little kids want most. 

Look what I got this year from Sinterklaas:

Sunday, 4 December 2016


There is no shame in helping those who find it difficult to find the right words at the right time.
Here are some words for navigating the great, messy, electric, sometimes awkward, and totally vital conversations that need to happen about sex in our lives… For example:

  • Would you like it if…?
  • Would it please you if…?
  • Would you enjoy it if…?
  • Would it rock your world if…?
  • Are you enjoying this?
  • Do you want more of this?
  • Is this good for you?
  • Does this work for you?
  • Do you want something different?
  • Did you enjoy it when…?
  • Was it pleasurable to you when…?
  • Did it work for your when…?
And some potentially super helpful sexy words like…
  • Do you prefer a firmer or gentler touch?
  • Do you like it when I move slower or faster?
  • Do you want sexy snuggles or sleepy snuggles?
  • Do you want more tongue or less when I kiss you?
  • Would you like the rope tighter or looser?
  • Do you want me to be more allowing or more assertive [in this activity]?
  • Do you like spankings to be more “golf clap” or more “rock concert”?

De Roe

De roe (A rod) of bundled twigs - also called a "gard" - was not only used by Sinterklaas. A naughty child would traditionally get "Love blows" with, "not out of hatred." In 1820 the rod in schools was officially banned, but Sinterklaas and his helpers kept it threatening with it until about 1980.

Etching by Jan Luyken, 1775

Saturday, 3 December 2016

A house with a shoe

Sinterklaas or Sint-Nicolaas is a mythical figure with legendary, historical and folkloric origins based on Saint Nicholas. Other names for the figure include De Sint ("The Saint"), De Goede Sint ("The Good Saint"), and De Goedheiligman ("The Good Holy Man") in Dutch; Saint-Nicolas in French; Sinteklaas in Frisian; and Kleeschen and Zinniklos in Luxembourgish.

Sinterklaas is celebrated annually with the giving of gifts on 5 December, the night before Saint Nicholas Day in the Northern Netherlands and on the morning of 6 December, Saint Nicholas Day itself, in the (Roman Catholic) southern provinces, Belgium, Luxembourg and Northern France (French Flanders, Lorraine and Artois). He is also well known in territories of the former Dutch Empire, including Aruba, Bonaire, Curaçao, and Suriname.

In 1971 Mies Bouhuys wrote a musical about Sinterklaas. It's about a little girl that wants a bigger house because they live in a small house now, and it simply is not big enough. Sinterklaas thinks she wants a doll house and his aid Piet brings the girl a dollhouse, but as it clearly doesn't fit in this house they have to take it back. Now the girl will have no present at all, and they still live in this very small house. How will it end? Can Sinterklaas help?

We (my wife, my daughter and I) will visit the musical today. Sinterklaas still is special to my 22 year old. Most kids understand the myth of Sinterklaas at six years old or so. My 22 year old is still crazy about Sinterklaas. Besides "her" Sinterklaas (Bram van der Vlugt) retired in 2011, but agreed to do this one last musical. He is 82 years old now and although replaced by a younger Sinterklaas still my girls "real" Sinterklaas.

I know we will have lots of fun today...
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